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    How to get kids to ask to clean up

    We were getting ready to go on a trip and I like the house to be tidy for two reasons.  1. I feel better 2. We don’t leave something behind and learn about it 100 mile into the trip when Fiona decides to have a tantrum about where her sequin flip bracelet has gone.


    So one area that I try to leave alone is the kids playroom.  We attempt to clean it once a week so that we can dust/vacuum but basically it’s how they want to keep it.  They love when there is wide open space to run around in so that is something that I have tried to use to coerce them in cleaning by explaining that they’ll have a fun, open room.  They love to make things out of recycled boxes etc. The room was overtaken by all of this stuff so we went to the container store one day and organized the heck out of the room. It is not perfect and some days isn’t even photo worthy but what I like about what we did is that is it functional.  We are able to clean up and make it look organized but still fun and lived in very quickly now that we organized it.  I knew that we were going to have a fight on our hands. Fiona hates to clean and refuses to do much but she is 4 so I take what I can get.

    Fiona thinking maybe she can just adjust her jewelry and we’ll do all of the work. No such luck kid. You want candy, you must work. Also her Happy Birthday hat was worn for the month of August her birthday month so it shows up on many non birthday days.

    Zoe will help, but often reluctantly and her arms always get really long, her back slumps over and I think she loses any skeletal system that she once had. She just is made of jell-o and sort of slinks over to the area to clean. I have tried numerous things to get them to clean up that never worked, but  I knew that we needed to clean up before we were headed out for our vacation.  I had been reading a book by Dr Shefali Tsabary called Out of Control.  It talks about not disciplining children.  What she means by that is that you don’t assign odd punishments for random infractions.  For example, if your child didn’t clean their room, then don’t take away their playtime days later.  She talks about allowing children to have emotions, opinions etc and not imposing our rules which are made up anyway.   Instead, put ourselves in the shoes of the children. Why are they crying- are they hungry? Etc So it was playroom cleaning and I thought “Hmm how would I have wanted to clean when I was a kid?”



    Zoe: Do I really need to clean up the whole pile Me: Yes, you do if you want the reward or else I’ll eat the bear.



    The game supplies: post-it notes that I reuse for each game and somewhat healthier gummy bears if you can call it healthy.

    So I thought about a game.  Now normally, my games end with a reward, but I thought what makes the journey fun.  What makes the work fun. So I hid post-it notes under a pile of toys or blocks. The rules of the game were that they needed to start to clean.  Once they found a post-it note, they needed to continue to clean up the area that was attached to that sticky note. I would guide them. For example, if they found a sticky note under a pile of blocks, they needed to clean the entire pile of blocks.  Once finished they got to eat a gummy bear.  I was the inspector and helper as well. So we were all working together but they were doing a lot of the work of cleaning up their own mess.  When we got back from vacation, the mess crept back in.  We weren’t even back for 5 days and the playroom was once again a disaster.  I told them that we needed to clean it again. They jumped up and I wasn’t even able to finish my tea before we had to go and start cleaning because they wanted their candy treat. This particular time was even more exciting because they had gotten a variety box of candy and were excited to get to pick out whatever piece they chose once they cleaned their spot.  They even shared with each other and were in a good mood after the project.

    Anddddd done. Took all of 20 min and they can run around